If You Can’t Beat ‘Em, Join ‘Em

My life is surrounded with boys. Most of the time, I’m fine with that.

This weekend, however, I was having a bit of male overload. Sometimes men/boys are abrupt, brash, and every once in awhile, not always patient and sensitive with girly ways. (Most of the time, they could earn the title of sainthood with their understanding…just every once in awhile….notsomuch.) I understand that they speak a different language. I know they like to be active, get dirty, think it’s funny to make inappropriate noises no matter how old they are, and other unpleasantries. I’ve embraced a love for watching football, baseball, golf, and even playing the latter. Not as well as they do, of course, but I look cute doing it.

Usually, I take the “If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” approach. I feed them yummy food and laugh while listening to their stories, overlooking their sometimes rugged ways. And, even to some extent appreciating some of it.

This weekend, I was feeling a bit done when each of them took a turn displaying their abrupt man-ness. They were busy, tired, or distracted, but it felt personal. And, I was thinking I’m outnumbered here, with these man people. I sat at the feet of Jesus, feeling a bit sorry for myself for a few minutes.

Then, I dusted myself off, and joined in shooting BB guns with the Tims, James, and Hannah (Timothy’s girlfriend). The next day, I put the grubby worms on the hook and learned to take my own fish off when we spent Labor Day fishing. I caught 12 fish! Tim and James each caught 2. I laughed and forgot about being done with these man people…the ones I love dearly. I can (and do) fill books with the reasons I’m grateful they are walking through this life me. They are my gifts, most precious.

And, anyway, if you can’ t beat ‘em, you might as well join ‘em. :)


  1. Love this, Kelly. This has been on my mind lately — how do I be the sole living female in our nuclear family of males? Even all of our dogs are male! ;) I appreciate your approach!

  2. yep!!!

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